Long Term Gain

Angel Tree Gift Outing

Short term pain- long term gain. It would have been easier to go to the store and purchase our angel tree gifts while they were at school.๐Ÿซโฃ
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Like A LOT easier. Itโ€™s hard enough going to the store with a 4,3, & 1 y/o-much more when you are shopping for toys for other kids. I wanted to give us a pass, make excuses and say โ€œoh well we focus on compassion and giving enoughโ€ or โ€œthey probably wonโ€™t understand this experience- or remember it anywayโ€, โ€œwe are busyโ€(the perpetual excuse for everything).๐Ÿ’šโค๏ธ๐Ÿ’šโค๏ธโฃ
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But we all went and picked out toys and clothes for other kids that need them more than us.๐Ÿป๐Ÿ‘›โšฝ๏ธ๐Ÿš™๐ŸŽ โฃ
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They actually had fun. No tears were shed- by them or me. ๐Ÿ˜…โฃ
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This experience has sparked important conversations about money, privilege, homelessness and how we handle those issues. โฃ
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We often underestimate our preschoolers and ourselves- avoiding the short term pain for the long term gain. But this doesnโ€™t teach them how to be a kid that has compassion, courage, handles hard things, survives delayed gratification - or no gratification, gives other people the things they want, sacrifices for others. ๐Ÿ’•โฃ
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๐˜๐˜ด ๐˜ต๐˜ฉ๐˜ช๐˜ด ๐˜ธ๐˜ฉ๐˜บ ๐˜ธ๐˜ฆ ๐˜ด๐˜ข๐˜บ ๐˜ธ๐˜ฆ ๐˜ธ๐˜ข๐˜ฏ๐˜ต ๐˜ต๐˜ฐ ๐˜ณ๐˜ข๐˜ช๐˜ด๐˜ฆ ๐˜ค๐˜ข๐˜ณ๐˜ช๐˜ฏ๐˜จ ๐˜ฌ๐˜ช๐˜ฅ๐˜ด ๐˜ฃ๐˜ถ๐˜ต ๐˜ฐ๐˜ถ๐˜ณ ๐˜ต๐˜ช๐˜ฎ๐˜ฆ ๐˜ข๐˜ฏ๐˜ฅ ๐˜ฎ๐˜ฐ๐˜ฏ๐˜ฆ๐˜บ ๐˜ด๐˜ข๐˜บ ๐˜ฐ๐˜ต๐˜ฉ๐˜ฆ๐˜ณ๐˜ธ๐˜ช๐˜ด๐˜ฆ?โฃ
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This outing also reminded me that what brings me parenting anxiety isnโ€™t even CLOSE to other parents that face much harder choices for their kids each day. โฃ
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๐˜ž๐˜ฉ๐˜ข๐˜ต ๐˜ข๐˜ณ๐˜ฆ ๐˜บ๐˜ฐ๐˜ถ ๐˜ช๐˜ฏ๐˜ต๐˜ช๐˜ฎ๐˜ช๐˜ฅ๐˜ข๐˜ต๐˜ฆ๐˜ฅ ๐˜ต๐˜ฐ ๐˜ฅ๐˜ฐ ๐˜ธ๐˜ช๐˜ต๐˜ฉ ๐˜บ๐˜ฐ๐˜ถ๐˜ณ ๐˜ฌ๐˜ช๐˜ฅ๐˜ด ๐˜ต๐˜ฉ๐˜ข๐˜ต ๐˜บ๐˜ฐ๐˜ถ ๐˜ฌ๐˜ฏ๐˜ฐ๐˜ธ ๐˜ธ๐˜ฐ๐˜ถ๐˜ญ๐˜ฅ ๐˜ฉ๐˜ข๐˜ท๐˜ฆ ๐˜ญ๐˜ฐ๐˜ฏ๐˜จ ๐˜ต๐˜ฆ๐˜ณ๐˜ฎ ๐˜จ๐˜ข๐˜ช๐˜ฏ? โฃ
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Go out to dinner without the iPad? Join a league or club with people outside your race or income bracket? Play with kids that have different abilities? Have tough conversations about race/gender/sexuality/death? โฃ
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I challenge you to try. And then try again. And again. ๐Ÿ’ช๐Ÿฟ๐Ÿ’ช๐Ÿพ๐Ÿ’ช๐Ÿป๐Ÿ’ชโฃ
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Let us know your experiences doing intimidating things with kids that paid off