Long Term Gain
Short term pain- long term gain. It would have been easier to go to the store and purchase our angel tree gifts while they were at school.🏫
Like A LOT easier. It’s hard enough going to the store with a 4,3, & 1 y/o-much more when you are shopping for toys for other kids. I wanted to give us a pass, make excuses and say “oh well we focus on compassion and giving enough” or “they probably won’t understand this experience- or remember it anyway”, “we are busy”(the perpetual excuse for everything).💚❤️💚❤️
But we all went and picked out toys and clothes for other kids that need them more than us.🐻👛⚽️🚙🎠
They actually had fun. No tears were shed- by them or me. 😅
This experience has sparked important conversations about money, privilege, homelessness and how we handle those issues.
We often underestimate our preschoolers and ourselves- avoiding the short term pain for the long term gain. But this doesn’t teach them how to be a kid that has compassion, courage, handles hard things, survives delayed gratification - or no gratification, gives other people the things they want, sacrifices for others. 💕
𝘐𝘴 𝘵𝘩𝘪𝘴 𝘸𝘩𝘺 𝘸𝘦 𝘴𝘢𝘺 𝘸𝘦 𝘸𝘢𝘯𝘵 𝘵𝘰 𝘳𝘢𝘪𝘴𝘦 𝘤𝘢𝘳𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘬𝘪𝘥𝘴 𝘣𝘶𝘵 𝘰𝘶𝘳 𝘵𝘪𝘮𝘦 𝘢𝘯𝘥 𝘮𝘰𝘯𝘦𝘺 𝘴𝘢𝘺 𝘰𝘵𝘩𝘦𝘳𝘸𝘪𝘴𝘦?
This outing also reminded me that what brings me parenting anxiety isn’t even CLOSE to other parents that face much harder choices for their kids each day.
𝘞𝘩𝘢𝘵 𝘢𝘳𝘦 𝘺𝘰𝘶 𝘪𝘯𝘵𝘪𝘮𝘪𝘥𝘢𝘵𝘦𝘥 𝘵𝘰 𝘥𝘰 𝘸𝘪𝘵𝘩 𝘺𝘰𝘶𝘳 𝘬𝘪𝘥𝘴 𝘵𝘩𝘢𝘵 𝘺𝘰𝘶 𝘬𝘯𝘰𝘸 𝘸𝘰𝘶𝘭𝘥 𝘩𝘢𝘷𝘦 𝘭𝘰𝘯𝘨 𝘵𝘦𝘳𝘮 𝘨𝘢𝘪𝘯?
Go out to dinner without the iPad? Join a league or club with people outside your race or income bracket? Play with kids that have different abilities? Have tough conversations about race/gender/sexuality/death?
I challenge you to try. And then try again. And again. 💪🏿💪🏾💪🏻💪
Let us know your experiences doing intimidating things with kids that paid off